Body as Ally: Recovery Kit

4 Minute Read: Body, eating disorder, addiction, holistic, recovery, connection.

I spent more years than I'd like to admit fighting my body.

It took a WHOLE lot of pain before I arrived where I am now – eating and moving in a way that feels nourishing, energizing and "just what I do"...rather than being stuck in an exhausting, defeated struggle.

I learned A LOT in those years (er, decades) and do not regret them – after all, they shaped my path and capacity as a coach + doctor.

But I also learned things along the way that, had I known them on day one, probably would’ve made me feel better a lot faster. Today, I want to share one of them with you:

The food is not the problem. It's not even what you're hooked on.

Photo by Inge Poelman, Unsplash

Photo by Inge Poelman, Unsplash


Same goes if "your fix of choice" is another substance, behaviour or act. They are NOT the hook.

Know what IS? The moment just before.

Not actually partaking in the food or drink or act...but the moment just before.

That moment (and not the actual consumption or doing) is the magic moment – the addictive moment.

In that moment, all is (at least temporarily) right with the world. Or, in any case, about to get better. Pain, sadness, fear, heartbreak, loss, and all other flavours of discomfort are about to (at least temporarily) get better or disappear.

That moment just before offers hope. It makes a promise.

Problem is, it's a promise that's never kept. And the magic moment never lasts.

Photo by Alexander Krivitskiy, Unsplash

Photo by Alexander Krivitskiy, Unsplash


Just as food isn't the problem, it's also not the solution.

It can never fill what you're truly needing (I mean, other than natural nourishment). It can never solve your underlying wounds, fears, needs, and limiting beliefs.

Could be (often is) that the experience of actually eating or doing the thing isn't even that grand. In any case, it's over pretty darn fast and rarely worth it.

Then, there you are, with the same places of need and pain...plus any fallout – including guilt, shame, regret, and physical or emotional dis-ease.

Guess where those lead?

Maybe not straightaway, but usually, eventually, they feed back into the same search...the same craving...the same promise that will NEVER be kept...the same bad cycle on repeat.

Know what though? You're not doomed!

Because even just seeing the cycle – and recognizing the "magic moment," which is NOT the actual food or act – is power. Is empowering.

It expands your sphere of awareness and your sphere of choice.

This is NOT to say that, oh, hey, great – now I'll ride out the magic moment and make all the healthy choices! #winning

Nope. But little by little, seeing and naming already changes things. It couldn't possibly be otherwise. Every time you notice – whether before, during or after – you are shifting the trajectory.

You are saying: "I SEE YOU. You mean well, and you're trying to help me feel better....but actually, you're not capable of keeping that promise. It's not your fault – it's just something you don't have to give."

Photo by Inge Poelman, Unsplash

Photo by Inge Poelman, Unsplash


Our mind and body truly are on our side. They want to keep us safe – and cared for.

And each time we gently but honestly show them what DOES feel better and DOES feed our true needs, they lean in. Maybe not noticeably at first...but gradually, more and more, over time.

This is a promise – leaning into the good stuff – that is always kept.

If you do nothing else with this, get curious about the "just before" moment next time around. See what's happening there...and what happens after.

Oh, and I include a guided meditation on the cycle in my new Body as Ally Recovery Kit (along with other audios, handouts, an ebook, and a workbook).

Check it out here (it's $49 CAD, which is around $36 US).

Meanwhile, here’s to leaning in, being truly whole, walking each other home. xo.


Life by design.

When you’re making changes, caring accountability makes a world of difference.

I offer two avenues for customized plans + coaching:

The Foundation and The Deep Dive.

Also check out the brand new Body as Ally Recovery Kit.

In integrity + alchemy.

 
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